If you have decided to return to work and start your path to be a career woman, your first biggest responsibility, choose your helper very carefully.
When that someone is the correct person, only then you can be working in office peacefully. Otherwise, you will be applying leave every week since there is always some issues happening at home due to Helper giving some problem.
Don’t start looking for a helper, just before one week you going to start work. Correct way should be you should start finding the correct helper first make them settle in your home first, and then start searching for a job.
Some employer’s they just take someone whoever can be hired immediately. They ask for transfer helpers and if they are available in 3 days, then they hire them. If you are lucky enough it is a good fit, otherwise it is a waste of time for all of us and waste of money.
Mother should play a very important part in hiring a helper. She will have the gut feeling, whether the helper is the correct person or not. She should be able to tell if that helper can take care of their little ones or not. If for some reason, you feel that she is not suitable, listen to your heart and skip that helper. Don’t just hire someone, because your need to start your work in a week.
Okay, finally you have selected someone carefully before you start work, now what to do next ?
- State all your ground rules at home very carefully. Ensure things are working according to your way and your style. Of course certain thing you can be flexible, such as baby bath time may become different or she may not be able wash cloths on time as she may not be able to juggle between childcare and housework yet. But other rules that you want the helper to follow exactly must be informed to them carefully. Such as , do not bringing the child out without your permission or do not give smart phones to child to encourage them to eat.
- Tell your helper explicitly, no matter how nice she may appear in front of you, she should not get angry with kids or she should not give her own punishment to the child. If in case, your child misbehaves and she is not able to control him or her, she must inform you immediately. If she feels that your child needs to be disciplined, she must confide in you, rather than she taking things in her own hand and later it can become problem.
- Once you have become a busy working mum, don’t give all the responsibility to the helper and after that completely ignore about what is happening at home. Do keep a look out and do keep checking once a while, how things are being handled.
Since changing a helper will be a hassle and you just ignore those doubts and you continue to live with it. You might then end up losing peace at home and you become stressed. After much observations and much considerations, you still have doubts , look for another helper but this time be extra careful.